Thursday, March 20, 2008

The Ground Rules

I’ve been thinking about this a lot lately.
And I’ve decided that IF I am ever to THINK about another “romantic” relationship, I need to come up with a few ground rules; a contract, if you will.
Just so we have everything out on the table. That way we will both know what is expected of us.
Ov course he must have a personal relationship with God and be willing to be the spiritual leader of the household (as soon as I figure out how to give that up - big control freak that I am!)
As for the rest of life, I think it's fairly simple.
Here goes…

· Do your laundry
· Cook excellent dinners
· Vacuum
· Hold you when you are upset
· Laugh with you
· Cheer you on
· Listen whenever you want to talk
· Clean the Bathrooms
· Rub your back
· Rub your feet
· Snuggle with you
· Kiss you at least five times a day
· Keep you warm at night
· Pray with you

IN RETURN, I only ask:
· That you love and respect my children
· Help me with the chores when you can
· That I am enough for you, your one-and-only (no flirting with other women, ogling or pornography)
· That you talk to me…say “thanks for all you do”, “I appreciate you”, and “you are wonderful”.

I’m thinking there must be a guy out there somewhere who would be willing to make this work. I still have hope. Although I don’t know why.

I just know that I’m gonna be checkin’ my list if another relationship comes my way. No compromises.

So I don’t know…what do you think? Am I being unreasonable? Is it too much to ask?


MotoMom said...

I think you are asking far too little. Not only should he love and respect your children, he should also love and respect you. You will never be enough for him, nor we he be enough for you. It is healthy to have friends and interests outside the relationship (you female friends, him male friends) In the same way that you want to do things to make him feel special, loved, and appreciated he should make the effort to do the same for you. If you haven't read them yet pick up one of the 5 love languages books. My husband's love language (besides food and you know what) is gifts (bummer because we are trying to get out of debt) and mine is acts of service (bummmer again because he would rather hire out home improvement projects)

I think you were on the right track with MG because you first started as friends. I am sorry for all the pain you are going though right now. I am praying that God will use this time to work on you so when He brings someone into your life you are prepared not only to love, but to be loved. You do deserve to be loved!!!!

Heather said...

I would add finding a fellow Christian to the list--I see too many people in unequally yoked marriages struggling. If he loves God with all his heart, all his soul, and all his mind then he will have an easier time loving you as Christ does.

I have been reading but have had no words. I am praying though. I so long to be able to do something or say something that would help. I am reading though, and praying. And I guess that has to be enough.

Rebekah said...

good for you!!