Found this post this morning from a fellow blogger that I really appreciated and I wanted to share it with you.
Some of the comments she got were people who were ADAMANT that they NEVER lie to their kids.
WOW! I kinda wish I could be that kind of a parent.
OK, I really don't wish that.
Yes, I confess...I lie to my kids all the time. We do the Easter Bunny and Santa and all that FUN stuff. Although the "Tooth Fairy" falls down on the job rather regularly. So I always blame it on myself...as in
"Oh RATS!! I forgot and locked the front door so she couldn't get in! She'll make it tomorrow night." The tooth fairy has actually been known to come while they were at school. She's more of a 24-hour service fantasy - slash - lie.
And #2 did inform me this weekend that she NO LONGER believes in the Easter Bunny. I say "Well, who leaves you all that candy?"
BIG eye rolling..."MOOOooooooM! You do!"
And I say "Serious?????" Like I'm all surprised.
Then she says "Yah, But I still believe in Santa Claus."
How cute is that? Oh, I think they know...and they CHOOSE to believe.
I don't know if you have ever seen or read "the Hiding Place"; it's the story of Corrie Ten Boom and her life during WWII. She retells a story of her childhood when she took a trip with her father and asked him that dreaded question..."What is Sex?"
Her father didn't answer; he simply asked her to carry his briefcase onto the train. She couldn't lift it no matter how hard she tried.
So he said, "You know, I would be a pretty poor father if I truly asked you to carry that heavy case. The same is true with information. Some facts of life are just "Too Heavy" for a child to carry. So just trust me to carry it for you until you are old enough to understand."
I thought that was SUCH a great explanation. I always swore, growing up, that I would NEVER do what my parents did and say "Because I'm the MOM, That's why!!"; I would always give my kids a REASON for what I asked them to do.
Now that I am a parent, I realize how unrealistic that is. Sometimes you cannot explain to a child how come they have to do something. Usually, because I don't have TIME to open the can of worms (barrage of questions) that would ensue. Call me lazy.
But sometimes, I just cannot think of a way to explain some things so a child will understand.
HENCE, the lies.
In a public restroom, you are juggling a toddler and a crying baby while your five year old boy is going "Potty" with you in the WOMEN'S restroom. He says "But MOOOOOooooom, WHY do I have to wipe myself?"
I'm sorry, I just don't have time or the energy to explain personal hygiene at a time like that!
BECAUSE I SAID SO, THAT'S WHY!
We're late for school, I haven't had my coffee yet, #2 hit #3 and there is much chaos (crying, screaming, yelling, running)...and #4 wants to know WHY she can't have cake/cookies/brownies for breakfast.
Excuse me, Life, while I sit down and have a lesson on proper nutrition with a four year old.
I don't THINK so!
BECAUSE I SAID SO, THAT'S WHY!
Then comes the kicker "But Mom, how come YOU can eat a brownie for breakfast and I can't have one?"
Because Mommy's tummy is built different than yours?
Because Mommy is lazy?
Because Mommy lives for chocolate?
I just CAN, that's why!
I didn't eat a brownie for breakfast! It was a special, hi-protein meal replacement bar that just HAPPENS to closely resemble a brownie.
Ok..I admit it. I'm a liar. :D