Tuesday, March 13, 2007

It Ain't All a Bed of Roses! - CWO IOW

"One of the secrets to a happy marriage is remembering the source of our joy, which is not one another. The source of our joy is the Lord. Yes, we share tons of joyous moments, but we don't expect, let alone demand, endless joy-filled moments from each other. "
~ Liz Curtis Higgs ~
from the devotional: Rise and Shine

Darlene is our hostess for today's In Other Words quote.

I can't believe I skipped the last week or two. It just seems to have totally slipped my mind. But now I've made myself a handy little list over there on the right of weekday things I want to do, so that will help me remember.

It's also quite the co-incidence that MG and I were just talking about this very thing last night. Sometimes couples have this fantasy that they should never disagree about anything; that everything should remain calm. And if something does go wrong and they have a tough time communicating or working it out, then it's "over".

The reality is that we are human. We are going to disagree. MG and I are going to argue. It is hard to WORK at our relationship. It would be so easy to just walk away from him, to wrap my pride around me like a queens' cape and say "HE has to come groveling to ME. I'm not backing down"!

The key is in this fact...we both love God. And I love him. So I CHOOSE to stay and work things out. We BOTH come together; meet in the middle. Like God explains in His book, 1 Corinthians 13...

4. Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.

5. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. (I have a TOUGH time with this one. I get angry and say things I shouldn't...and I have the memory of an elephant! At least that's what my exhusband used to tell me when I would drag up everything he ever did since I met him during an argument.)

6. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.

7. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. (that means, love chooses to "hang in there" and fight the fight; to work for the relationship!)

8. Love never fails...

As much as we wish it could be that way, relationships are not a bed of roses. Things are not always easy between partners.

It's ALL in how you handle it... WITH PRAYER and by doing what GOD wants you to, not what your human side wants you to do.

Listen up, Janean! I'm talking to you!


Darlene said...

I like the way that you listed the characteristics of love and expounded on them.

Denise said...

shoI enjoyed your post, bless you.